Impostor syndrome is a deeply rooted feeling of insecurity that rears its ugly head when we step outside our comfort zones, and it aims for the jugular as it make us feel like a fraud, a sellout, a poser. It usually strikes at a point that should otherwise be a proud moment, like getting a promotion, landing a new client, receiving a commission to do a work of art, or receiving praise and recognition. Impostor Syndrome is that mean inner voice that says, “So, you think you’re special now?” or “Who do you think you’re fooling?” and “You don’t belong here… you don’t deserve this. You are going to fail.”
In one of my favorite RomComs, Will Smith’s character “Hitch” is a dating consultant who takes hopeless cases and helps them win over the loves of their lives. In an opening scene, one of his clients expresses his uncertainty about a new, very becoming, pair of shoes, “I don’t think they’re really me.” To which Hitch replies, “You is a very fluid concept right now. You bought the shoes. You look great in the shoes. That’s the you that I’m talking about.”
Sometimes, we need to get unstuck from the self-imposed perception of who we were and what we did yesterday (and the days/months/years before that). Why, with all of the infinite possibilities that each day holds, do we feel trapped in cycles of doing the things that don’t work for us, and fail to make us happy?
YOU is a fluid concept every single day. YOU choose the “shoes” you will wear, what path you will take, and which lens you will see yourself and the world through. That’s the YOU I’m talking about.